I was asked to be a "specialist" for an young men/ young women Etiquette Dinner activity for our ward. Now, let me come right out and say... I am not a specialist in any way when it comes to etiquette, in fact I am quite the opposite. I don't cut my lettuce into smaller pieces (I actually try to avoid my knife when I can). I haven't let my husband open my door for me at times (too impatient) and I can never remember what side the forks and knives go on... so like i said - NOT AN EXPERT!
But I am decent at throwing a good shin dig and I can research etiquette online so I guess I am qualified :-)
I decided to do it formal... the whole nine yards. Fancy decorations, real place settings, 4 course meal and the kids had to RSVP. The theme of the evening was "A Black and White Etiquette Affair". The colors of the night were black, white and silver or glitter! The kids were to dress up in black and white and we were going to place them in a date-like setting.
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| The invitations |
I had each YW leader be in charge of one table. They were to decorate it how ever they would like using the color scheme. I wanted the tables to be nice, formal and fancy. I definitely wanted to use napkins, goblets and all the silverware (soup spoon, salad fork, etc). Boy oh boy, the leaders did not disappoint! They went over the top. The tables were so nice and so fun. I also wanted the cultural hall to be magical... so of course we had the YM leaders string up white christmas lights! It was so great!
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| Some of the fabulous tables the leaders decorated! |
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| This is a horrible picture, but you can kinda see what it looked like with the lights. |
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| This is my table. I put Lindor Lindt chocolates in the boxes. And I used the freezer paper technique to stencil on the word "eat" on each napkin. I have been wanted to do this and this was the perfect occasion. |
When the kids arrived, before they went into opening exercises, I had the boys and girls write their names on slips of paper and the boys put there names into a top hat. The girls placed their names into some elegant high heel shoes.
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| Here is the table as the kids went into the chapel. Also, these are the auction paddles we used for the etiquette quiz. |
We had opening exercises and they I told the kids what the plan was for the evening and I began drawing names. I reminded the kids that part of their etiquette was not to react in a "disrespectful" way when the names were drawn (no laughing, snickering, groaning) and the boys were to treat the ladies like they were on a formal date. Their first act of etiquette was to walk them to the cultural hall and pull out their chair for the girls to sit at the table.
We then had an adult give a 10-15 minutes talk on the importance of manners. Why should we be polite and use manners and that there is more to etiquette than just eating with the correct fork. For instance: social etiquette, respect adults, look people in the eye when talking to them, etc.
Then I gave the kids a quiz. I had multiple choice questions and true false. I made auction paddles with A, B, C, D and T (true) and F (false) for each table. Together as a table they were supposed to decide what the answer was to the questions and hold up for correct paddle. This was to make it interactive and a group effort.
Then it was finally time for dinner. We served a potato soup, salad, lasagna and green beans with a skewer of strawberries with garnish. And then ice cream sundaes (ice cream, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, toffee bits and a cherry on top).
The YM leaders where the servers. They were fabulous. They worked hard and made the kids feel like they were at a fancy restaurant! One leader even serenaded the kids... how great is he! The YW leaders were in the kitchen getting the food ready for the servers.
As the kids ate each course, I would discuss with them the do's and dont's of eating soup. Or how to eat a salad. I went over what utensil to use, how to know which cup is yours. What to do with your napkin when you leave the table and where you place your silverware when you are done with it. I taught them as they were eating, so they could put the new information to use as they ate.
At the end, the YW president gave a quick thought and we let the kids go. It truly was a great evening and it was fun to be with the youth again. The leaders in my ward are the best and go all out for the youth and the youth were so well-behaved and fun. All in all, it was a great night!
PS - I wasn't able to get picture of the kids all dressed up and enjoying the evening. My camera died.. so hopefully I can get some from other leaders and post them soon.